Couple Therapy

Do the Foursome. Arrange a double date with another couple. Make sure it’s a new couple you’ve just met; don’t pick from your existing roster of friends and office mates. Go on a double dinner date or arrange a friendly badminton game. Think of it as a little science experiment. You’ll learn little things from the couple-the way they treat each other, how they give each other some valentine gifts, and even new activities they’re into. Sometimes, being surrounded by the same group of friends is what contributes to your life’s mundane routines. There’s nothing wrong with meeting new people.

Play Dress Up. Give in to a little kink. For one date, surprise your man by dressing up as a totally different personality. You don’t have to go over the top by renting out costumes. Wear your hair totally different with your sexy perfume on, put on new makeup shades and dress in a sexy (or conservative, if you’re the opposite) outfit you don’t normally wear. Your man will be so intrigued, it’s like he’s dating a new girl. Who knows, he may even return the favor on your next date by dressing up as that hot celeb you’re crushing on.

Try Something New. Create new experience together. Maybe try rock-climbing or go sky-driving together. New experiences can bring you closer together. Set new experiences weekend once a month, it can be as big as going bungee-jumping or as small as picking out flowers for the Vday. Either way, it will create new exciting and memorable moments.

Live Outside The Relationship. Don’t forget to get a life outside of your relationship. Don’t forget about the YOU before he came along. Reconnect with old pals and all the other extra-curricular activities that you used to do. Having time for your personal life will give you a sense of self, and will even make you look forward to spending quality time with your lover.

  1. I love this advice.
    In fact, I practice it more than I preach it.

    Kinking things up a bit with just even changing clothes can be key to keeping things alive in bed and in the relationship.

    Trying new things keeps you from repeating things. I know that when Richie and I can’t afford to go out and do anything, there ends up being a stalemate in the house and we don’t really do anything together except chores, bathing, sleeping and snuggling.

    Unfortunately for us, we’re both sort of hermits (though not by choice). So, he has no pals to reconnect with (and I seriously worry about this) and my one pal is in AZ so I only get to talk to her when she has no work. :(

  2. My fave part is Living outside the relationship. I just agree on that. There’s more to life outside the little world both of you made. And you MUST get in touch with the people outside that world because when your little heaven breaks, they are the ones you would run to. :)

    Also, you have to at least spend one day apart just so you’ll miss each other and have more stories to share. ;)

    • Cat
    • January 26th, 2010 4:41am

    I definitely agree with the last one. A relationship shouldn’t completely take over your life! I like having my alone time to spend on my hobbies. My boyfriend and I also do the first one, though usually with friends we already know. I think trying something new each month is a good idea, but the dress up one doesn’t really fit us, haha.

    • TJ
    • January 26th, 2010 5:15am

    haha i wish i had a boyfriend, then i could really follow these more :P

  5. This is such a great read. I booked-marked. :D

  6. I noticed sis, that rarely I see you blogging. Anyway, that’s good suggestions esp. the TRY SOMETHING NEW.. because it’s common to see people dating in the restau, might as well try those exotic and adventurous date.. :)

  7. Nice advice! Ill try to wear jeans the next time I see him! Heehee… cause he knows that I hate wearing jeans. That would totally intrigued him! :D

  8. Great tips:) Thanks for sharing:)

    • Kayt
    • January 28th, 2010 1:37am

    thanks! I’m glad you liked the layout! I normally don’t like my layouts, but I really liked how this one turned out :D . Ohh :D I accepted and followed back :)

    I really like the colours and the style of this layout.. awesome!

    I like this blog :) and I think it’s very true. People really do need to change things up from time to time to keep the relationship interesting and to keep the chemistry there. If it’s always the same it’ll get boring and the relationship will just go downhill :/

  10. Brilliant advice! I especially concur with the ‘living outside the relationship’ point. It is extremely healthy to have a life outside of being a couple to keep a relationship fresh and to not feel stifled.

    • Tj
    • January 28th, 2010 5:51am

    idrc about the comments, i want meaningful ones, i get like random ones, they’ll talk to me and never comment backk o_0 so yea, idk i use to have really good chats

  12. Wow. I love the advice. :) I’m actually a person who tries new things. I hate it when the relationship gets boring :D

  13. Err, did my first comment get in? Waaahh. It didn’t show up. x.x

    • Car
    • January 28th, 2010 8:49pm

    The Show is a great song! I learnt to play it on guitar hehe. That advice is really good for relationships. I’ll keep it in mind!

  15. I like this post! Will be doing this for an almost perfect relationship when I get into one soon. HAHAHA but for now, I’d be waiting and waiting for that partner to come. :)

  16. so true! I love what you’ve shared! Double date is gonna be a great idea. though I don’t have a lover, =)

  17. Ha, yeah. Between the paper work I had to fill out and the paper work they filled out while asking questions, there probably was about 30 pages. And yeah, I hate taking pills every day, but they help me for the most part.

    All of those are definitely good tips!

  18. I know, it’s like jeezz….

    Ahh midterm FUN!. LOl, goodluck!

    That’s pretty good advice you know. Like it makes sense. I love #3, it’s so cool. And makes sense. Then you can say “Remember when we rock climbed and you…”

    So cool :)

  19. I liked the idea of dressing up as a totally different person. I’ll try that one time. Me and guy have been doing stuff together, like play basketball, go on a date with another couple, almost all the things mentioned above. And so far, I’m in a healthy relationship. =D

  20. Thank you! The hovers are giving me trouble though; I’m thinking of removing them because of browser inconsistencies. :/

    Ah well, I don’t really like engineering myself. Nothing wrong with girls being interested in it! :D

    Aw, thank you. :) I don’t think making themes is that hard, but it’s quite a step from regular coding.

    I really like this post! It’s quirky. :P I have to say, playing dress-ups would be pretty interesting. Although I’m afraid James doesn’t like dressing up – we’d probably not do that in public. XD

    We always go new places and do rather daring things together, though. :3

    It would be hard to go on a double date since we don’t know many people, much less who are a couple!

    • Kate
    • January 29th, 2010 9:49pm

    They don’t give offers. Its stupid. Ugh! Anyway I know you haven’t because you haven’t heard of it. Lol! xD

    I absolutely hate wars. They are so useless and hideous. People die because of them and I hate it. Its so stupid!

    ___________

    I like this post. It’s nice. :) I completely agree with the last one. It’s true that you need to try new things to try in a relationship. If you don’t it will get really boring.

  22. Your post sis reminds me of someone… well, siguro dahil namiss ko ung noon with my ex. But wth, naalala ko tuloy bigla ngayon na wala akong kadate ngayon, tayo nalang? JOKE! ^^

    Sana…. sana…. sa Valentine’s day… DOT DOT DOT hehehe.

    Nag assume eh noh?

    About your comment sis, yeaah babalik na ang pinkista soon. :)) More stuffs to share :)

    IMY~! akala ko walang nagbabasa ng tweets ko bwahha. Labsya

  23. Nice tips dear! hehee will keep in mind if i ever have a man XD

    • Emma
    • January 31st, 2010 7:15pm

    Thanks, well just drop me an e-mail if you ever want to join in!

  25. You always have the most interesting blogs. :D I love how they are always varied as well. :)

    The foursome idea is great. I’ve done it before with my friend and her boyfriend and we had a great time. It really helped with mine and my boyfriends relationship too.

    The dress up one is really cool. :3 I hate dressing up all girly and whatever, I never wear dresses or anything so maybe I should do that one day and shock my boyfriend haha.

    I really want to try sky diving one time. Or skiing since I’ve never been but I want to go to like Austria or somewhere to do it. :3

    The last one is really important. When I first got with my boyfriend, my life revolved around him, we spent every day together which was great but I sort of forgot about my friends.

    That happens to a lot of people. =/ Especially in the first 6 months – a year of a relationship.

  26. Useful in the future.

  27. Thanks so much for the advice! Hindi ko pa masyado magagamit toh ngayon pero hopefully makatulong toh sa future relationships ko (if any)! LOL.

    Super tama yung “Living Outside the Relationship”. Kaasar minsan yung iba kong classmates na mag-on, puro na lang sila. Hai. Parang nawalan na sila ng social life. :X

  28. Those are all great tips. I especially think people in relationships need to try to live outside their relationships. I’ve had one too many friends who after finding a significant other kind of forgot about everything and everyone else. Which sucked, for me who was one of the forgotten everyone else. Not everything has to be a couple thing. That’s how people get bored of each other.

    • milu
    • February 3rd, 2010 9:49pm

    Aww great post…is true , we have to look diferent…very true the guy will think is a new girl , this is my favorite part….in fact , rigth now i will try to change my look a little ^^
    thanks =)

    • Thao
    • February 5th, 2010 1:10am

    Yes, yes, yes, and yes! I agree with all of those. Actually, we just went out with a new couple last night. We both live by trying new things together – nothing beats keeping life interesting, especially since you’ll be together for the rest of it!

  31. I really liked these tips :) Especially the one about making trying something new at least once a month.

  32. thanks for sharing this one April.. idk if Matt is into this kind of the thing.. the past few days things are so f*cked up.. grrrr.. TRY SOMETHING NEW seems fuuuun!!! LOL he would like me to try ski or snowboarding.. oh wait lets include rollercoaster ride and bungee jumping. haha I havent tried those 2.. pathetic me right? haha

  33. Hi sis,

    OT lang, I moved to new blog nga pala. If you have time, kindly change my link na ah? http://pinkista.org

    thankies! mwah!

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